We are stronger together…
Seems like a pretty simple concept to say yes to, right?
I wonder though, do you find yourself participating socially and professionally in all the right ways and still find yourself feeling like something is missing at times? I know I do.
As seasons change from one to the next in life, I find myself searching for the most current version of my place, my people, my purpose, my joy and deep inner peace. Does that sound familiar?
A quick and consistent way I’ve found to tap into that deep feeling of connectivity and meaning is through relationships. My observation is that this feeling of connection expands dramatically when I participate in bold authentic communication… even more so when done with groups of people.
I’ve witnessed transformation in myself and others time and time again when space is created to actively listen and courageously speak truth. It’s appears to be an antidote to the disconnection that is dominant in our busy, high achieving, competitive, information-oriented world.
This type of relational experience I’m speaking of delivers fuel in the form of strength, clarity, inspiration and happiness… the very human connection that we long for the most… the kind that leaves us feeling seen, heard and valued.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned that can shift even the most intense communication dynamic, it’s taking the time to meet another where they’re at and sincerely listening, witnessing…
For me, this is a practice. One that we get some days better than others. One that I strive to take out into the world and into my relationships each day….
It starts with a gift, your presence. Pausing all of the distractions, including the important things you’re eager to share. Taking time to really hear and see another is powerful, and I’d say healing too.
Give it a shot, next time you’re at the busy supermarket, ask your checker how her day is going and then watch… you’ll likely see a little spark of light appear in her eyes. You see her. She matters.
We begin to change the world when listening, understanding and sharing ourselves authentically becomes a priority.
Our stories matter.
Your story, my story, our story. Even the stories that you might not be inclined to tell, they matter…
Like the time you failed that important exam, or when you were so afraid you would not be able to pay your bills, or when you walked into class with your yoga pants on inside out. These get-real moments help build rapport, gain trust, encourage connection, increase self-awareness and cultivate a sense of belonging.
Stories are life-giving when shared. Like two or more flames touching, our light shines stronger and brighter together.
As we witness each other we tap into our ability to learn from each other. We open to new ideas and solutions, inspiration, creativity and support. But most of all we make space to just be, exactly how we are… together.
The world is a better place when we’re listening to each other, really listening. Through our stories we see common threads. We are reminded that we are not alone.
As we show up with and for each other, we affirm that every voice matters in this unique symphony.
Brene Brown’s call to bravely step into authenticity touches my heart, she says it so well:
There is no greater threat to the critics
and cynics and fear-mongers
than those of us who are willing to fall
because we have learned how to rise.
With skinned knees and bruised hearts;
we choose owning our stories of struggle,
over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.
When we deny our stories, they define us.
When we run from struggle, we are never free.
So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.
We will not be characters in our stories.
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.
We are authors of our lives.
We write our own daring endings.
We craft love from heartbreak,
compassion from shame,
grace from disappointment,
courage from failure.
Showing up is our power.
Story is our way home.
Truth is our song.
We are the brave and brokenhearted.
We are rising strong.
– Brene Brown, researcher + storyteller
Showing up IS straight-up your superpower.
The good news is, you get to choose if and how you show up… or not. This happens with each and every action and reaction in your life.
When you hide your truth or silence your point of view, you ARE giving away your power. When you communicate authentically you ARE claiming and tapping into your power. It really is that simple.
What’s your choice?
Take a moment right now to ask yourself, “Do I hide my truth or own it?” Seriously, let yourself quietly ask your heart this question… Are you happy with the truth in your answer? Notice without judgement.
Authenticity is one of my core values and has been for a long time. That does not mean I have it mastered… it’s a practice. It can be straight-up uncomfortable and even painful at times. And, the benefits make it straight-up a non-negotiable practice in my life because I am rewarded with…
- A sense of peace and relief
- Acknowledgement and understanding
- Space to explore and learn about myself
- A deeper understanding of why active listening is such a gift to myself and others
- Insight and wisdom from others
- Acceptance and a reminder that it’s okay to just be me
- New ideas and solutions that took two or more to create
- Joy, happiness and freedom
It’s powerful. Showing up authentically turns struggle into possibility… We’re just not taught this model of communication and commUNITY building. I say, let’s practice…
Lean in, say yes…together we rise!
Let’s take back the reigns, it’s time to normalize and celebrate the human experience. All of it not just the parts that feel or look good.
IT’S TIME to create relationships and communities where it’s safe to speak truth, where every single voice matters, where there is no need to hide or prove anything…
A safe space you can count on where you know that you’ll be seen, supported, elevated and celebrated.
This is how I believe we can change our lives and the world!
Sound good? Then it’s time to show up, to surround yourself with others willing to make time and space in life for getting real. You’ve got this! If you’d like support there are resources… I’m here so please reach out freely!
Together We Rise was founded on the desire to provide this type of safe space and community, you’re welcome to join in person or online! We have a beautiful community and we’re even launching an on-going article series to showcase the stories of women from all walks of life.
Bottom line, I see you and I believe in you… please know that your story, your point of view IS your super power!